When Friends Vanish

I’m planning a trip for my birthday next year. When I turned 25, I gathered all of my gals and we went on a weekend cruise to the Bahamas. We had a blast! Unfortunately, we haven’t been anywhere tropical since. So I’ve decided to plan another girl’s trip.

But I have a friend that I know won’t be going. We didn’t have a fight, an argument or a falling out. She kind of just slowly removed herself from our circle. It wasn’t quick or dramatic. It was subtle and at first unnoticeable. But now it has been so long that you can’t help notice it. I believe I’ve done my job as a friend. I’ve texted. Emailed. Called. I just invited her to my graduation BBQ two weeks ago. But she didn’t show up.

I’m not one of those people who feels like if someone doesn’t call me, I’m not calling them. When I feel like something is amiss in any of my relationships, I reach out. When I text her, sometimes she’ll respond. Sometimes she won’t. I really don’t know the issue. I don’t even know if there is an issue.

It’s not just me either. Some of my other friends have tried to reach out to her but to no avail. I think it’s been almost a year since we’ve really hung out. I haven’t really seen her since my friend’s wedding last year.
I would hate for the months that we haven’t talked to become years. But what else can I do? What else should I do?

I know that life, careers and relationships can wear on a friendship but has anyone else been in this situation? Is there any hope for our friendship?

Missing a friend,

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