I recently had a cram session with a friend which of course turned into a gab session about guys. One of my friends actually broke down in tears talking about the trust issues she was having with her boyfriend. It wasn’t that she didn’t trust him; it was that the issues she had experienced in her last relationship were causing her to feel like she had a reason to be worried.

Black women are always accused of being angry, bitter and damaged from past relationships. I think in a sense, we are all damaged from the past.

If it’s true that you learn from all your experiences in life, then aren’t we all a little damaged from everything that we experience in life?

I’ll be the first to admit that I think I’m a little damaged from the past, although I wouldn’t use the word damaged. I think the past has definitely made me grow. It has made me a little wiser and much smarter about the decisions I make. At least, I like to think so.

Even though sometimes, I throw what I know to be right by the waste side and make even more mistakes. But hey that’s what your 20’s are for right?

So what can women do to not be so bitter?

I think I know.

Too many women don’t take the time to be single and actually enjoy dating. They go from one relationship to the next without taking the time to heal, hang and even hoe a little bit. Date! Date more than one person and get a feel for what you want and what you are willing to deal with. Live a little.

Spend time with your girls. Go out and live a little. The only way to not let life get you down is to get out there and enjoy it.

Don’t just become damaged goods.

Live a little.

Not nearly as damaged as I once thought,


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