Dissecting the So-Called Hoe: An Addendum to that Double Standard Rule

We’ve all heard it before:

She a hoe.

You can’t turn a hoe into a housewife.

So my question is: What is a hoe?

Is a hoe a girl that simply sleeps with a lot of guys? Or a girl that you see with a lot of guys? I’m just wondering because you hear that word being thrown around so much that I find myself wondering Am I a hoe?

No seriously. Am I a hoe? I’ve dated a few guys in my life and been seen with a few guys in my life. So do I qualify?

What do you have to do to be a hoe?

There are so many people on TV, in the media and even in your own neighborhood that will label a woman a hoe. Now don’t get me wrong. There are some women that are rather loose with themselves sexually. I do believe that this mythical hoe creature exists. Hell, I even know a few hoes myself.

But I hate when I hear about a successful woman that has an active dating life be called a hoe!

Case in point: Kim Kardashian.

Sure, we were first exposed to her from the Ray J sex tape. But that was her man, so how long are we willing to judge her for that? Since that tape was released, Kim Kardashian (with the help of her mom/manager Kris Jenner) has built an empire with everything from perfume, to books and of course the successful TV show Keeping Up With The Kardashians.

No matter how successful she seems to become or how great her ventures do, on way too many websites she is branded with the dreaded H-word. Can’t a girl live her life? I mean seriously. Is she a hoe because she has been linked to successful men? (Reggie Bush & Miles Austin) or is it simply because she’s dating in the public eye?


No one knows why she’s a hoe but we just know that she is.

Now THAT really grinds my gears!

We all know that there are double standards that exist about men and women.We wouldn’t dare hear anything like that about man and have that information affect the way we see him. If you think a man’s a hoe, it’s ok. But if you THINK a woman is a hoe, then she is a loose woman with no morals or values.


As a woman, you literally can’t win for losing.

My advice boils down to this: Get down how you live girl! No matter what you say or do¸ people are going to say and think whatever they want. Don’t waste time or energy focusing on minor, ridiculous things that really don’t matter anyway.

If you talk to more than one guy at a party or social event, if you hug too many people and if you wear short shorts on the hottest day of the year, at the end of the day: you’re still a hoe.

So if that’s the case, I embrace my hoedom.

Signing off, a looser woman

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