Why is it that women will do damn near anything to get and keep a man? A woman will lose all of her friends and damn near her family before she gives up, not a good man (cause I could understand that) but a trifling ass, no-good, broke, lying, ridiculous ass man!
Come on, are we for real?
I mean, I understand. We all want someone to be with in one way or another but how much are you willing to sacrifice? I’ll tell you what I’m willing to do. I’m going to be who I am no matter what. You were who you were before you was with the man, why would you change now? I’m not talking about the gradual changes that people go through as they grow in life. I’m talking about dumbing yourself down to relate to a person or trying to be ‘hood when you know that’s not in your character.
We all have friends or have had friends that once they got with they man, they did a whole 180 on us. Not the healthy 180, but the she don’t hang out no more, picking up the man’s bad habits(like excessive smoking and drinking) and just trippin. But of course, they don’t see this behavior at all. They don’t think the it’s rubbing off on them.
But really, if a man isn’t bringing you up, isn’t he dragging you down?
I’m just saying.
It just really bothers me when I see women, who are the best women a man could have, settling and give their heart& soul (and sometimes they money too!) to these brothers who by all accounts aint ish! Like WTF!
Is it a self-esteem issue? Is it settling for less than our best?
Or are we really this desperate?
Single Black Female (& having waaayyyy too much FUN in the process!)